Custom of the bridegroom living at the bride’s maiden home(壻屋制)

Custom of the bridegroom living at the bride’s maiden home

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서옥제 ( 壻屋制 )

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Writer KwonSoonhyung(權純馨)

Marriage custom of Goguryeo (?–668 AD), one of the ancient Three Kingdoms of Korea, in which the bridegroom lives at the bride’s maiden home.

It is difficult to confirm the customs and ceremonies of ancient Korea and the Three Kingdoms period. Fragmentary records have been passed on, but most customs are simply mentioned in passing and information is mostly limited to marriage and funeral customs. In Goguryeo, there used to be a custom called seo-okje. According to “Wijidongijeon” (魏志東夷傳, Biographies of the Wuhuan, Xianbei, and Dongyi) from “Samgukji” (三國志, “Sanguozhi” in Chinese, Records of the Three Kingdoms), “When two families decide on a marriage, the bride’s family builds a seo-ok (Kor. 서옥, Chin. 壻屋, lit. a small house), behind the main building. The groom arrives at the bride’s home around sunset, announces his name, bows and and proposes to sleep with the bride. After repeating the request two to three times, the bride’s parents give consent for the couple to sleep together in the seo-ok. When the couple have a son and he grows up, that is when the husband takes his wife back to his home.”

This custom can be considered as an example of the derilsawi or bongsahon system. Derilsawi is the practice of the groom living at the bride’s home after marriage. Bongsahon is the practice of the groom living in the bride’s home for a certain period while providing labor. Examples of items that a bride would prepare before the wedding and the items she offered to her parents-in-law when she made her first formal bow to them, and the request to sleep with the bride in the seo-ok show that during the Goguryeo period set marriage procedures existed under the social norms of the time.

Custom of the bridegroom living at the bride’s maiden home

Custom of the bridegroom living at the bride’s maiden home
Headword

서옥제 ( 壻屋制 )

Location of the encyclopedia

Korean Rites of Passage > Korean Rites of Passage > Hollye

Writer KwonSoonhyung(權純馨)

Marriage custom of Goguryeo (?–668 AD), one of the ancient Three Kingdoms of Korea, in which the bridegroom lives at the bride’s maiden home.

It is difficult to confirm the customs and ceremonies of ancient Korea and the Three Kingdoms period. Fragmentary records have been passed on, but most customs are simply mentioned in passing and information is mostly limited to marriage and funeral customs. In Goguryeo, there used to be a custom called seo-okje. According to “Wijidongijeon” (魏志東夷傳, Biographies of the Wuhuan, Xianbei, and Dongyi) from “Samgukji” (三國志, “Sanguozhi” in Chinese, Records of the Three Kingdoms), “When two families decide on a marriage, the bride’s family builds a seo-ok (Kor. 서옥, Chin. 壻屋, lit. a small house), behind the main building. The groom arrives at the bride’s home around sunset, announces his name, bows and and proposes to sleep with the bride. After repeating the request two to three times, the bride’s parents give consent for the couple to sleep together in the seo-ok. When the couple have a son and he grows up, that is when the husband takes his wife back to his home.”

This custom can be considered as an example of the derilsawi or bongsahon system. Derilsawi is the practice of the groom living at the bride’s home after marriage. Bongsahon is the practice of the groom living in the bride’s home for a certain period while providing labor. Examples of items that a bride would prepare before the wedding and the items she offered to her parents-in-law when she made her first formal bow to them, and the request to sleep with the bride in the seo-ok show that during the Goguryeo period set marriage procedures existed under the social norms of the time.